Sunday, 2 October 2016

5 Things Living With My Partner Taught Me

Sabre Beauty and partner in front of Berlin Wall

Dave and I have lived together for five years now. Five! When I think back to when we first started going out in Uni, when we first locked eyes over a grubby Irish bar, it doesn't even seem like that long ago.

We started off with Dave bunking in my horrible little bedsit in what can only be described as a crack-den. It was a student accommodation place in the middle of town, filled with about 50 other people. The bathroom constantly flooded, the internet didn't work, and we got no TV signal but surprisingly we didn't murder each other.

Moving from there to our first proper apartment was a big jump. I mean, we didn't have to keep toilet roll in our room so it wasn't stolen, or padlock our kitchen cupboard, so as far as I was concerned we were living a life of luxury. Our flat was so lovely and homely, and I am genuinely gutted we don’t live there anymore, but we just couldn't stay there after we were burgled.

Sabre Beauty and partner in university

Now we live in a lovely little flat on Liverpool waterfront, and we’re getting ready to start looking at houses. WHAT AN ABSOLUTELY TERRIFYING THOUGHT.

Living together hasn't always been a walk in the park. It's definitely taken a bit of getting used to, and I think we're definitely there now. Don't get me wrong, we bicker and argue, as you'd expect from anyone, but there's nothing quite like coming home after a horrible day at work to the person you love more than anything, who happens to be dancing around with the cat to Careless Whisper.

Since I've lived with Dave for quite a while now, I wanted to talk about some of the things I've learned during that time.

Sabre Beauty and partner

1. I’m a fucking mess
I am a mess in so many ways. I struggle keeping up with washing and cleaning, I don’t put things away, and don’t even get me started on my financial situation. Luckily for me, Dave is so incredibly patient and he is great at everything I’m awful at. It’s kind of like a balancing act. I call places to renew the home insurance; he makes sure that I don't starve and die.

2. When to back off
We know how to push each other's buttons, and it's so easy to do when you're fuming with the other. Sometimes you'll be stressed over bills, and having someone RIGHT THERE IN YOUR FACE is no help. So you just need to back the fuck off and go chill out before you say something you'll regret. 

3. How to compromise
This follows from the previous point. We don't always see eye to eye on things, so compromises have to be made if we want to get anything done. We're both very stubborn, so this can be a bit of a chore. Decorating the flat is something we compromised a lot on. We rent, so we don't have a lot of room to decorate, and we both don't particularly like the other's interior design tastes. I settled on Dave having a Dali poster (THAT ISN'T EVEN FRAMED), and he settled on my wicker units that I absolutely refused to throw away.

4. A whole new bunch of skills
Dave’s taught me a lot with budgeting, building a routine and grating cheese. Yeah, apparently I was doing this wrong the whole time before meeting Dave. Weird, right?

5. Enjoying each other is more important than anything else
Adulthood is annoying. So enjoy the little moments and the laughter. Date nights are important.  There's nothing better than building a blanket fort and watching Wayne's World on a Sunday night. Dave has been there with me throughout my highs and lows, and as cliché as it may sound, he is absolutely my rock. We may fight and bicker like children at times, but ultimately that doesn't really matter, because I have the most fun with Dave, and he is literally my bestie.

Sabre Beauty and partner

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